If Something's Not Working, Change It

Oh my gosh, I haven't posted in a really long time! Is Blogger even a valid blog platform anymore? Anyhoo, I thought I'd dust off the old keyboard and finish a post I had started to write way back in December of 2017. Over two years ago!

First I'd like to explain the title of this post. This is courtesy of my wise mama Barb. She has this knack of finding solutions to problems with ease, almost like she has an otherworldly insight into life’s problems. Anytime I bring an issue to her attention, without hesitation she will have an idea. It's always something simple and practical. One of her most common answers? "If something's not working, change it".

I have utilized this advice many times over the years. When Ellie’s therapies were beginning to be too much for us, we opted to take the summers off. Therapy-free summers were renamed "real life therapy", and we have not looked back. We actually see huge gains in Ellie's development during these breaks. When my corporate job was overwhelming, my mom suggested working 4 days instead of 5. I asked my boss, and after some planning and rearranging I was able to have Fridays off. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made for myself! And since I wrote this post, I have quit corporate life and joined Jesse at Stafford Beverage selling booze! What a huge change for me, but a good one. I'm still adjusting to this new role and am finally settling in. Being home at the end of the day to get the kids off the bus has been the biggest bonus with this change. I am so grateful.

The whole point I'm trying to make, is that when you find yourself stuck in a rut, feeling down, and as if things are no longer working, take a step back and make a change. Try talking it out with the ones you love, lean on your mom, mother-in-law, husband, or best friend. Talking it out will help bring out alternative solutions to the surface. And hey, if it doesn't work that is OK too. You can just move on and try something different.

But that brings me to the reason I wrote this post in the first place. Sometimes, something isn’t working right before your eyes and you don’t even realize it. Like the time we found the note in Luke’s backpack. The guilt-inducing, I seriously suck as a mom note. I was sucker-punched, right in my guts.

It was after dinner one cold night in December in 2017. Jesse and I were cleaning out the kid's backpacks, and he happened to flip through one of Luke’s notebooks. Doodles filled the pages, Luke’s signature unicorns, detailed eyeballs and other colorful creative creatures. I like to think of this moment as a little nudge from the universe, because I’m usually the one who empties backpacks. But on this night, Jesse took on the job but he happened to flip through Luke's notebook, something I wouldn't have done. He handed the little notebook to me and nodded as if to say "check this out" with a concerned look on his face.

In Luke’s cute little handwriting was an “attention chart”. He had drawn a pie chart where he carefully outlined how much attention each of our kids receive. Luke: 25%, Will: 35%, Ellie: 50%. That equals 110%, not too shabby, eh? In all seriousness, I felt terrible when I read it. Absolutely terrible.

"Attention Chart"

I immediately called my mom. You see, I grew up with 6 brothers and over 100 foster kids in our home. Why did I not feel deprived for attention as a kid? I needed to know what the heck was I doing wrong, and how to fix it. I was crushed. She reminded me of our “hooky days”. Ahh, yes, hooky days!!! One of my most cherished memories! My mom would let me skip school and we’d spend the day just the two of us doing whatever I wanted. This usually would include trips to the mall to buy cassette singles and acid washed jeans. It was amazing and memorable.

After I got off the phone with my mom I excitedly asked Luke his thoughts “hey would you want to skip school and take a hooky day with me?” He was thrilled. “Heck yes!" He said. "Can Grandma come? Can we go to Walmart and Chipotle?” So that’s what we did. We had a blast, we found some fun things for his art desk. We went to Walmart, and Goodwill. We took our time eating lunch at Chipotle, and didn't rush like usual. We had the best day ever.

Hooky Day 2017

And now it is two years later. Today Luke took his 3rd hooky day since I originally found the attention chart! Each of our kids get one day during the school year to take a day just for themselves and we do whatever they want. I love it just as much as they do. But man! Sometimes life kicks you in the nuts with an attention chart and it requires change to be made. I must say I'm glad we found that chart Luke drew and that we could openly talk about it with him. Today was so fun, can you guess where we went? Walmart and Chipotle, and TJ Maxx as well. We rushed home and Grandma helped get his room all decked out just the way he wanted it. It was the best day ever. :)

New bedding and loving it!

Hooky Day 2019

Oh, and I had another realization through all of this; my mom and I are still taking hooky days together. Every year on the day of our birthdays we go shopping and out to lunch. We always get a cocktail with our lunch and we have a blast together. This year is her big 80th birthday so we are taking a hooky weekend to Utah together. I cannot WAIT!

I wonder if my kids will still want to take hooky days with me when we are older? I sure hope so.

Hooky bday with Mama

Is there something in your life that may not be working? Take a step back and look at your situation. Even the smallest change can make an impact. Think of my mom’s words next time you are stressing out, "if something’s not working, change it”. Try it, you'll see. And you'll laugh at how simple it is. Thanks mama Barb for always having the best advice.

For this week's post I'm choosing a song that reminds me of my kids, because I'm a total sap for mushy love songs. 

Little Hands - Inland Sky

Quit Shaming Me. A Letter From My Mama Heart

Do you guys remember that Unicorn drink from Starbucks? It was layers of blue and pink topped with whipped cream and sparkly sprinkles. It was pure fatty magical frothy goodness. One Saturday I was checking out at the grocery store with all three kids and the store clerk, a young man probably in his 20's, asked us what we were up to that day. "Oh we are heading to get a Unicorn drink from Starbucks, we are so excited!" I exclaimed. He looked at me in total disgust and said "I would never, ever let my 3 year old drink that, do you realize how much sugar is in those things!?" To which I replied, "Oh I know, but one drink won't hurt them, I'm just being a good mom!" 

"Keep telling yourself that" he replied.

I stared blankly at him, blinking hard.

Keep telling yourself that.

Chip away at my mama heart will ya? Keep chipping.

Just this past week I've had in-depth conversations with my mom, my mom-in-law, and my neighbor (and good friend) about what I call "mom-shaming". It is happening all around me. As if I couldn't second-guess my parenting any more; I'm faced with articles like "Your Kid is a Brat and it's all your Fault", or the article that started off by explaining that suicide rates are up 200% in kids ages 10-14, or mental illness is rampant in our children. Do you know why this is happening? It's all because of us, parents, US! We don't feed our kids nutritious food, they play too many video games, we don't play enough board games with them, we bribe them too much, we coddle them, or because they aren't outside playing enough.

Chip, chip, chip.

Full disclosure. As you know, our girl Ellie has Down syndrome. And there's one particular rule that I break, and I break it hard.
"Avoid using technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, malls"
I dare the author to take Ellie to a baseball game or a restaurant and ask her to sit quietly. I can bring coloring books, toys, snacks, and even a leash (full disclosure, remember?) and this girl will not stay with us. In the world of Down syndrome this is called "bolting" and it's a real thing. So I admit I let her watch her YouTube videos or play games on my phone. 



Chip, chip.

We are lucky to live in Oregon. It is beautiful here, and when it's not raining our kids are out on their bikes, on the trampoline, playing with the neighbors or building forts. Not unlike my childhood, really. And if they are in the house, we are usually relaxing, watching a movie, playing video games or talking about our day. Not unlike my 80's childhood, cough..ahem... Nintendo addict. Because with sports, art, appointments, work, and school, our life can be pretty busy. So I admit we don't eat dinner around the dinner table every single night. Wednesday night? I fed the boys mac-n-cheese with hot dogs in it. I was tired, damn it.

Chip, chip.

So, I've made a decision, I've made a stand in my overly tired mom-brain. I will continue to read the articles. I will! And I'll try to incorporate some of the good nuggets of info into my life. But only in baby steps. I really do appreciate the ideas, like playing a board game every night with the family. But you know what? This is real life. Our oldest has soccer and gets home around 7ish. We then eat a quickie dinner and check backpacks. We may sit and watch a show and then we might even have ice cream (gasp!!!) So board games? They may happen once a week, if that. And on non-sports nights maybe I'll make an effort for us to eat together at the dinner table.... I'll have to clean the clutter off the table first, though.

Moms, promise me, please? As you read those articles, don't beat yourself up over them. Maybe you are doing everything in those lists like me. At the end of the day ask yourself this, are your kids happy? Are they grateful? Are they fed? Clothed? And you know damn well they are loved. You are doing an amazing job. Now take that hand of yours, put it on your back and give it a little pat. You are amazing. 

Oh, you know what? I used that Unicorn drink as bribery for my kids to be good while I grocery shopped.

Chip.

And... they had sold out of the darn Unicorn Frappuccino that day. My kids never even got to experience the fatty frothy elusive goodness.

So maybe I am a good mom, after all.

For this post, I've chosen a song from our Rockin' Mom Retreat Playlist that I get to compile each year. How lucky am I to get to do that?! Anyways, I LOVE this one. Listen to it. And moms, give yourself a break, this is the only time we have - enjoy it.

This is the Only Time We Have - Ryan Miller

As Long As It's Healthy, A 77 Year Old Pregnancy

As I rummaged through the area under the sink, my mom stood next to me nervously fidgeting with her hands. I handed her the Dixie cup and a few moments later we saw two little lines. Pregnant! I cried tears of joy and amazement “I cannot believe I get to experience this with you, mom!” She gently rubbed her belly and said “I think it’s a boy, I can tell by how I feel.” We were giddy and excited like we were sisters. I was then outside and in the distance was a sparkling water tower with bright orange pumpkins at the top. I made a mental note to take photos of the kids there sometime. It was the golden hour and the sun was shining beautifully and the light was perfect. I pulled my mom close to me and we googled “77 year old pregnancy risks”.  The next thing I remember is being startled awake by the sound of my alarm clock. I smiled to myself and thought “oh man I can’t wait to tell my mom about this one”.

That morning I did what I do every day, I called my mom. “Mom, I just had a dream you were pregnant!” She giggled and said “I better go to the casino, maybe it means I’ll meet a guy!” She always makes me laugh. So then we had a whole conversation about stories of women past age 60 having babies, I reminded her to be careful. “I wonder what a 77 year old’s risk of having a Down syndrome pregnancy would be?” we giggled some more. As I explained the random pumpkins and the water tower, she said “OK you know what is weird, I’ve had a reoccurring dream and fear since I was a little girl of water towers.” Her brothers would simply walk by her and say “water tower” and she would cry. Dreams sure are trippy, aren’t they? I wonder what it all means.

Me and my mama

I can tell you exactly why I’ve been dreaming about babies and pregnancy though, it seems that everyone at work is pregnant. The two girls that sit next to me are pregnant and have the cutest little baby bumps. We talk about babies every day. I was talking to one of the girls right before her gender ultrasound. I said “so do you think you’ll have a little sis for your daughter or a baby bro?” She looked at me and said “I don’t care, as long as it’s healthy”. Then I could see her body language shift. She said “but, I mean, if it’s not healthy that is OK too...” I could tell she had one of those “oh crap” moments, like maybe she said the wrong thing to me.

This conversation brought me back to when I was pregnant with Ellie. Every night Jesse and I have a routine of going upstairs and kissing the kids goodnight before we go to sleep. Every single night during my pregnancy with her, I would go kiss my boys and then rub my belly and say a prayer “please Lord bless this baby, and please make sure she is healthy”. I had a rough time throughout my pregnancy and always worried that she wasn’t going to make it. I had bleeding for weeks, gestational diabetes, thyroid problems, and she was in an odd position in the womb to which doctors had no explanation.

My Ellie Belly

After the birth of our girl, I remember crying to my mom. Through tears I said “but mom I prayed every night that she would be healthy.” She looked me straight in the face and said “and she is, honey.”

Ellie with Grandma

I know once you join the Down syndrome club, and you hear other moms saying how all they care about is that their little one is healthy, it can hurt a little. Like they don’t want a baby like yours. But I’ve come to realize that there is nothing wrong with hoping your baby is healthy. One thing we all have in common is that we don’t want our little ones to hurt or suffer. We are protective and love these little beings more than life itself. So “as long as it’s healthy” doesn’t bother me anymore. Because I prayed that our girl was healthy too, and she is, honey. 

Ellie and I

This week's song was one that popped up yesterday on Pandora, and I immediately sent it to my brothers. Yesterday would have been my handsome dad's 80th birthday, so of course I always think he's saying hello by sending me beautiful music to listen to. :)

Timshel - Mumford and Sons

Happy 4th Birthday Ellie

To capture 4 years into a 4 minute video was hard for me, especially since I take sooo many pictures! And do you know what really stood out as I sorted through the hundreds of photos? This. girl. is. so. loved. Wow!

Click the link below to watch the video:

Happy 4th Birthday Ellie

Happy birthday Ellie, our beloved one!

Shaken, Not Stirred: A Stafford Family Update

As I sit here on this snowy Thursday night, drinking some cheap red wine, I had the realization that I have only posted on this little ole' blog four times this year. That is a huge difference from the first year we had Ellie, I had posted 22 times in 2013. 22! That's almost 2 posts per month. And I remember when I started blogging, my whole intention of sharing our life was to maybe help one family receiving a Down syndrome diagnosis, to show them that it would be OK. I also remember thinking back then.. "there sure are a lot of blogs about babies and young kids with DS, and not many about older kids"... My imagination lead me to wonder if this was because it got harder as our kids grew, maybe it was harder to talk about? Too overwhelming to share? Is this why the blog posts fade into nothingness?

Truth? For us it hasn't gotten harder. It's gotten really "normal" to be honest. I don't have anything exciting to report on my little blog. We are a family of 5 and we are so dang busy that we've resorted to eating Taco Bell 4-5 times a week. I probably shouldn't admit that, huh? Yikes. I'm juggling work, Jesse's new adventure, Will's tournament basketball team (basketball 5 x a week! seriously), Ellie's appointments as well as trying to encourage our little artsy "cream in our cookie" Lukey Lukester.

So in regards to Jesse's new adventure. I have to tell you a story. If you know me at all, then you know I'm very "woo woo". Jesse has had a dream of owning his own liquor store since he was a kid. I'm not kidding. While we all were playing "house", "cars" or "teacher", Jesse was playing "Liquor Store". He had a cash register and mini bottles that were his Grammy and Papa's. He would sell the mini bottles to his make-believe customers. Who does that!? 

He tried for over ten years to be appointed to a store. He was told no over and over again, but he never gave up. Finally this past September he opened his own store. He has been working 80+ hours a week and business is growing every day. He is truly good at what he does and watching him with his customers makes me so proud. 

Leading up to this we had many little angel winks, including Luke asking the Magic 8-Ball if daddy would get a store and it said "All Signs Point to Yes", my mom found a little black cocktail recipe book that was her dad's on the day Jesse found out he got the store. The first recipe in the book? "Angel's Kiss". Thanks Grandpa Lehne for the blessing! After feeling like maybe owning a store just wasn't meant to be it finally happened. 

I can't forget to mention that a psychic told me Jesse would get the store, hehehe. She nailed it. Too funny huh? Side note: she also said my dad plays songs for me and he loves that I notice. WOAH! Goosebumps! He plays songs for me all the time and you wouldn't believe the eye rolls I get when I mention that my dad in heaven is turning the radio dial. 

The Recipe Book, note the 3rd one down, LOL

Front of the Store

At Daddy's New Store

To make it even more fateful, Jesse and I met when we were 18 and lost contact at age 19. Guess where we were when we saw each other again 5 years later? You guessed it, the Liquor Store. That was where we rekindled our love! I have a whole story about that encounter but seriously, it's where it all began!

And now an update on the kids!

Will is 9 now and is doing really awesome at school. He is drawn to all things sports and plays soccer, basketball and baseball. Right now he's on a tournament basketball team and they got first place last weekend at their tournament! He is really tall and loves to compare his height to mine. His favorite things are playing outside especially with the neighbors and being a comedian 24/7. He is so much like his uncles that it creeps me out sometimes. 

Champs!

Oldest and Youngest

Luke is 7 and has been really exploring his artistic side. I'm so so proud of him! He has his own art instagram and has been doing the CHAP art classes every month. He is so creative and amazes me with his artistic ability. He was asked to be part of an online gallery called childish. I asked him if he wanted to do it, and he said he absolutely wanted to! So stay tuned to see his "Happy Trees" art being featured! He also had his first commissioned piece and made $10, he was pretty stoked!

Luke

Focused

Luke's "Mother and Baby" his first commissioned piece!

Ellie will be turning 4 in January. I can't even believe it, our baby! It's been a whirlwind trying to figure out what's going on with her legs. She still walks sideways and drags her smaller leg behind her. She's been to a couple of specialists and we are trying to determine if it could be Cerebral Palsy. Our last stop is the Neurologist and I'm just waiting to hear from them to make that appointment. She had thumb surgery in September which was a success also! 

After Thumb Surgery

She and I were in a documentary and that was fun to do together. I think it turned out pretty great and I can't wait to share that after the new year. She also had another photo shoot for Fred Meyer and looks so cute! This ad not only ran in the local Freddy's ads but in the Kroger ads nationwide! My friend Kelly in Texas picked me up a bunch of copies!

Latest Fred Meyer Ad

Ellie also did a calendar shoot for FACT with her Uncle Danny! He will be getting a framed copy of the ADORABLE pic for Christmas, I can't wait!! When I asked him if he could be a model with her, he said "Tiff, God answers prayers in ways we don't expect. I've been praying a lot lately and then you called me to tell me this!" Oh man he makes me smile!

FACT Calendar

Dressed up for Christmas Pics

So really the whole point of this post was really no point at all. I just thought I'd check in and write down what has been going on! I should mention that I have been a really really really bad friend, sister, daughter and wife lately and I'm sorry for that. I am so lucky though because most of you still love me. I'm terrible about setting up dates and checking in. It will get better I promise, once we get out of "survival mode" of owning a new business. And once I can get more than 5 hours of sleep a night! I'm tired! 

I also have to mention how grateful I am that my mom and mother-in-law have been so helpful and loving and supportive. Cooking meals, folding laundry, even cleaning toilets. Seriously big huge hugs and loves are going out to those ladies who keep me from completely losing my you-know-what. I love you! More than you know!

For this week's post I'm putting a very random but special song to our family. It is one that is often playing in the background when we are cooking dinner or hanging out. Every time I hear it I just think of my sweet little crew and it makes me smile. I'm getting a record player for Christmas and found this on vinyl for $2, it shipped yesterday. I can't wait to listen to it on Christmas day. Ahhh so excited!!!

xoxo

Angel From Montgomery - Bonnie Raitt & John Prine

How Can You Change the Face of Beauty??

Is your child a ham? Do they light up when they see a camera? Have you wondered what this whole Changing the Face of Beauty business is all about??

Well I am being totally serious when I say, send your child's photo in to your local agencies!!!! Do it! If Ellie can do it, your child can too!

Since Ellie has been booking modeling jobs I have received a lot of messages from other parents who want to know how to get started. I thought I would list the steps I took here for easy reference.

The first step I took was to google... I googled "child modeling agency" in the largest town near us. I had found two agencies that sounded good. I picked two photos of Ellie that I felt showed her "sparkle", one head shot and one full body shot. At that time Ellie wasn't walking so it ended up being a sitting photo, but it worked out just fine.

Here are the pictures I submitted:

When you submit your photos, there will most likely be an area in the form for comments. This is where I included the link to Changing the Face of Beauty, and I explained to the agencies why I am so passionate about CTFOB's mission. I also told them all about Ellie. 

Then I waited. I had submitted Ellie's photos in December and didn't hear back until March. One agency never called me back. But Puddletown did, and they have been absolutely wonderful to work with. You can see Ellie's talent profile here. We have had a lot of fun with the shoots Ellie has done for Hooray Haroo, Matilda Jane, and Fred Meyer.  She has a Fred Meyer ad that is supposed to run this week, so keep an eye out for it!

The posing. I wasn't going to add this tibit of information but I think it might be helpful. Since Ellie was tiny we have always had fun with her signature "model poses". Here she is as just a little nugget posing for me:

Just a few weeks ago my friend Joelle from Australia messaged me. Her beautiful daughter Josee Hope was asked to be a model for a company called Oobi. And not only a model, but the Unicorn Ambassador for their company - PERFECT!!! Joelle was nervous that Josee wouldn't pose for the camera. Here are some of the tips I shared with her:

The mirror: The mirror has helped us with Ellie's speech, teeth brushing, hair brushing, etc. We also would copy each other's faces in the mirror, so now she will copy any face that I do. It's a great place to start.

The iPad or phone: Letting your child videotape themselves making faces gives them instant gratification. This is another useful speech tool as a matter of fact!

Siblings/Mimicking. This one is HUGE. Mimicking and copying siblings has been a huge help in getting Ellie to do her poses. Even during her Matilda Jane shoot Ellie started to melt down, but then she watched Grandma Barb and copied her, you wonder where her sassy poses came from? 

So Joelle tried these tips with Josee who had never modeled professionally before. She absolutely ROCKED IT. You have to check her out, isn't she amazing??? Oobi Unicorn Ambassador Josee Hope

I was worried about whether modeling would be too time consuming for our crazy life. Honestly I wasn't sure if doing this would even be feasible since I work, but my mother-in-law has been a huge help, thank you Grammee!! She has taken Ellie to both of her Fred Meyer shoots, and the Matilda Jane shoots have been on the weekend, so I was able to take her! We are taking the jobs as they come and are figuring it out as we go. We don't know how long the modeling gigs will keep coming in so we have just decided to have fun in the process. We are also saving Ellie's money for her college fund!

As always, I am here to answer any questions you may have. Seeing children and adults of all abilities in the media is so, so important. It makes my heart swell with pride and excitement when I see more and more companies being involved. My hope is that someday it isn't a big deal and that it just "is", if that makes sense. 

Here are some of her latest photos that I love:

Her first Fred Meyer ad:

Behind the scenes at Matilda Jane:

The real deal, I think they turned out so great:

A few I took this morning:

For this post's song I'm going back to my high school roots (thanks to my niece Karley for rekindling my love for this music). Here is one of my faves from 20 years ago, and now it reminds me of my baby girl:

Beautiful, you're beautiful, as beautiful as the sun
Wonderful, you're wonderful, as wonderful as they come

Beautiful - The Smashing Pumpkins

Three. Tres. Ba. Trois. My Baby!

Three! What a magical but not too strange trip it has been! I can't believe our little girl is three today. It's been a while so I thought it was the perfect time for a blog update. 

I haven't been good about blogging lately and I'll try to explain why. When I started this blogging journey I saw it as a virtual baby book; a great way to keep Ellie's milestones in one place, to have a place to look back at how she's growing through pictures, and to keep friends and family updated. But in all honesty the online blogging world is tough. Her info is out there for the world to see. There's a lot of talk about sharing our children's stories, because her story is HER story, it's not my story. Is it fair to Ellie? Will she look back and want to slap me? 

So in other words, I started second guessing what I was sharing. I don't ever want to do Ellie a disservice by sharing our family's experiences. But I also still feel that sharing is important for those newly on this journey, our life is pretty normal (normal? like a setting on a washing machine?) No seriously, our life is great and we have a kid with Down syndrome.  So with that out of the way, I wanted to do a little recap of the past year now that my baby girl is three. 

2015 was SO FUN and SO BUSY. And Ellie's birthday is TODAY! 

Ellie had an epic year. I can't imagine that 2016 could top it. She was in the paper a few times, and even on the news! She was also in Times Square on the big screen, TWICE! She's reading like a champ!! She is even starting preschool in a month! I'll recap her 2015 in pictures, because that is how I roll (and I love going back and looking at them as the years quickly pass by) :)

My last post was my pissed off letter to the editor, and the one before that was the amazing Down Syndrome convention. So I'll rewind to summer. Let's start there.

Our 4th of July party was the best one ever, there were lots of people and fun was had by all.  I also got to meet my friend Jisun for the first time. We met online in the original  Rockin' Moms group. She stayed the night at our house with her family in a tent! Yes it was that kind of party! She has a blog called kimchilatkes. She is a very gifted writer, if you haven't already you really should check her out. She's also now an Oregonian, woo hooo! Ellie and Caj are so cute together. I'll talk about them more later. 

Every year our family gets together and we stay at Sun River. It is SO FUN, so relaxing, and just wonderful. Jesse's sis and family live in Vietnam so we always love to have them home. The cousins act like no time has passed. We look forward to this getaway every single year. 

Our besties from Texas came and stayed with us too, it was such a fun few weeks!! I didn't know that I wanted a Sister Wife until Kelly came and stayed with me. She would have dinner ready when I got home from work, and laundry done as well. Our house never looked so good. Kel, when are you coming back again?? Ah we love you guys so much, and miss you terribly!

We tried to get as much time on the boat as possible. Ellie LOVES it. We are looking at getting her and Luke into swim lessons before summer so they are more confident in the water. This is my favorite part of summer.

We also go on an annual beach trip with my side of the family. My brother and sis-in-law came from Texas and my niece Presley stayed for 2 weeks. It was so wonderful having them home!! The boys get along so good with their cousin Pres. The family genetics are almost creepy sometimes! They are all so much alike, and my niece is my mini-me!

We also spent a lot of time with my BFF Jos and her family. We are so lucky to have them in our lives. 

September came, and so did our annual DSNO Buddy Walk! Ellie's team raised almost 2K- we are beyond grateful. We also had our biggest group yet!

Another event in September is the National Down Syndrome Society Buddy Walk. They have a jumbo-tron in Times Square that plays a video showcasing people with Down syndrome. I've entered Ellie's picture every year since she was born. She's never made it in until this year. To me this was the "big one"... New York, baby, where my daddy was born. Oh he would've loved to have seen her in Times Square! And you know what? Somehow Ellie made it in twice this year. The paper even did a little story about it. She was in once with her buddy Caj (mentioned above) and again with her Great Grandma Margaret. Our sweet Grandma passed away in October. She got to see the photo of her and her Great Granddaughter on the big screen. She and Ellie had a special bond that's for sure. We sure miss her.

Another fun event in September was my "Rockin' Mom" get together. My house was full of beautiful babies and big kids too. Watching the friendships develop before my eyes was too much. There's something to this little Ds family I belong to, it's hard to put into words. But what I do know is that I'm grateful for each and every one of my Rockin' Moms, near and far.

October! October is my handsome hubby's b-day, as well as Down Syndrome Awareness Month! I warned my Facebook friends that I would be annoying for the whole month of October. But what I found was that my friends are amazing. They actually shared my photos of Ellie and are spreading awareness (acceptance) too. Here are a couple of photos I shared in the month of October:

So let's talk about Ellie's modeling for a minute. This whole thing was CRAZY to Jess and I. I'll try to explain it all as quickly as possible. Ellie was signed to Puddletown Talent in March of 2015. She had her first modeling gig in August for Hooray Haroo (seriously adorable clothing, made in Portland, OR!).. the Statesman Journal did an article about her modeling job. They had told me the article would be in the Sunday paper. I had my sweet mama-in-law and brother John running around to find the paper for me, to see if she was in it! She wasn't and I figured maybe they decided not to run the story. As Jesse said "it was only one ad she was in- what's the big deal?!"

The next morning I woke up early and was waiting for my coffee to brew. I jumped on Facebook to check in on my friends. My friend Lisa (in TEXAS) yes we love our Texas peeps... messaged me saying that she saw Ellie on her news-feed in USA Today. Wait, WHAT!?!?! I'm pretty sure I ran in and woke Jesse up to tell him. 

I went in to work like any other day, and around 9am my mama-in-law sent me a picture, our girl on the cover of the Statesman Journal. Then around 10am Ellie's agent (that feels so funny to say) texted me and said that Channel 8 wants to interview us. WHAT?!?!? So I called Jess and he said "Cool, you should do it." So I talked to my boss, took PTO, and rushed home. I had no time to clean my house. My amazing mama-in-law came over to help me hide clutter and fake like my house was clean. It went really good and Ellie was a total ham for the camera. So then The Mighty posted an article about Ellie. Then I got a call from a sweet reporter from Upworthy. She loved Ellie's story and wanted to do an article. She said "we only have 8 million followers on Facebook" Oh my gosh! I couldn't believe all of this was happening.

             

  

            

So since that one crazy modeling job went viral, Ellie has had two more modeling jobs. One for Fred Meyer (thank you to her stage Grammee for taking her!) and one for Matilda Jane. The Fred Meyer ad is supposed to be out in February and I'm not sure when the Matilda Jane photos will be live. It's been a whirlwind and so much fun. The best part for me is talking to other parents about Changing the Face of Beauty. It's an amazing and important campaign and is really changing the way people view those who are differently-abled. I'm so grateful. So here's my advice to parents: if your child loves the camera and is comfortable having their photo taken, get that kid an agent! Contact your local agencies with your child's photos and explain CTFOB's mission. It's really an amazing thing.

The Statesman Journal also did a follow-up on Ellie that you can read about here. It sums up all the craziness in a nice neat package, much more eloquently than I could!

An update on our girl as of today. Ellie is reading like crazy, she loves her flashcards and her books. Jesse and I did a count the other night and she has 130 sight words. It's so amazing! She is just starting to take more and more steps and we are really proud of her. She has a new Minnie Mouse backpack to start school in February! Health-wise she is doing awesome with the occasional sniffle and she seems to be growing out of her croup-there-it-is problems! She is on meds for hypothyroid and I also give her a handful of supplements (Nutrivene, zinc, folinic acid, and fish oil) which are all approved through her Pediatrician and Naturopath. We are lucky that we have Dr. Peirson local to us, she has helped Ellie SO much! She has her 3 year check-up this month at her Ped and the DS Clinic at OHSU. 

Lastly are some more recent photos from Thanksgiving and Christmas. Mostly Ellie doing her signature hard hugs that everyone looks forward to! Overall 2015 was amazing and fun and I don't know where the years have gone. Our baby is a big girl now and it happened in the blink of an eye! We love you Ellie Lehne, Happy birthday sweet pea!

For this post's song we are sharing Ellie's current favorite jam (besides Let it Go, of course)...

WTF - Missy Elliott