Wednesday, August 14, 2013

They Are All So Happy

I have an announcement. Ellie, my sweet precious Ellie, is NOT always happy. She just isn't. In the 7 months that she's been on this earth, she has been everything. Happy, sad, frustrated, excited, curious, mad, stubborn, the list could go on. Name an emotion and she's probably experienced it. 

Pre-meltdown phase
Let the drama begin!
Will looks around like someone is going to help him!
Seriously mom, HELP ME! (says Will)
When I tell people my daughter has Down syndrome I almost always hear "oh, they are all so happy", or "they are all so sweet". I am trying to figure this phenomenon out because so far, Ellie is a lot like her big brothers. She spits up like them (rrr!), she giggles like them, she smirks like them, she cries like them. When people refer to her as "they" it feels like she's part of a whole different species, do you get what I'm saying?

There is a preconceived notion, myth, or stereotype about people with Down syndrome that "they" are always happy, or "they" are always sweet. Well Ellie wants me to tell you this.. "she" is just herself. It's just like saying "all gingers have no souls" when we know the truth, only some gingers have no souls. Hehe. 

So that is my PSA for the day. People with Down syndrome are each unique individuals just like you and I. They laugh, they cry, and sometimes, damn it, they have throw-down diva fits like it's their job!! 

My song of choice for this blog post is "You are so Beautiful" by Joe Cocker. I love this song, and it makes me think of our Ellie girl. BUT I also love that my dad once arrested Joe Cocker in Cali back in the early 70's. Famous family story right there! 


  1. Oh Ellie, such a big job educating the masses. Down syndrome, must we always refer to it? You are a baby, you are a female, you are part of a family. You are loved. It will take a village, just like with all littles...You go go girl, and you be who God meant you to be. Be it Diva, or stubborn. Be your best self, and tackle it all!

  2. Love it. When my sister was little she was famous for her "wide mouth wail." You're on the journey of discovering that people are more than their labels. It's never-ending and eye opening. Best of all - your love for Ellie will deepen.

  3. I'm so with you on this one...My little Pip is only 8 months old & I have heard this same thing over and over...Well said!! t @ Happy Soul Project